SPACE Blog – LAUREN AINSWORTH
Girls are usually known for being more into fashion than boys. It is a fact. So why the heck are men more famous for their creations in fashion than women?
Surely the woman would know what is fashion-forward for woman. I believe that it all comes down to this very uncomfortable issue that Tom Ford (a famous designer) once pointed out:
“I think we (as in men) are more objective. We don’t come with the baggage of hating certain parts of our bodies.”
Now I thought about this all day today and I can’t agree with him more. I don’t want to get too political and offend everyone but I did a little bit of research.
I asked a boy and a girl (both with very similar personalities) these simple questions:
“What do you not like about your appearance?”
Person number one said:
“My eyes are too small, my nose is a weird shape, I have huge pores, my chin isn’t defined, my shoulders are too broad, I have a big stomach, weird folds in weird places, arms are fat, legs are huge, my feet are crooked, I’m really oily, my eyelashes are short and I don’t like my freckles because they’re too dark in places”
Person number two said:
“My nose, my lips and the bags under my eyes”
The second question I asked was: “What do you like about your appearance?”
Number one said:
“The colour of my eyes”
Number two said:
“I like my eyes, jaw and torso”
I think it’s fair to say that you said the first person was a girl and the other a boy. The real question is why do girls self-deprecate themselves so much more? Well, all you have to do is think about yourself. How often do you put a girl down for her appearance?
From personal experience I know I see it (and do it) all of the time. But I really don’t see much interest in what a boy wears or how he styled himself. Now I’m not saying boys don’t get any hassle for what they wear but I see it happening more to girls than boys on a daily basis. So let’s just try and correct ourselves.
I have been doing this for the past couple of weeks- as soon as I put down people’s appearance in my head I think “Lauren. Stop it. What if that was you?”
It doesn’t sound like much but I actually feel a lot happier and slightly less cliché teen girl.
Now the media also portrays an unrealistic picture of what a girl looks like. Most women are not “perfect”: size 0, beautiful hair and amazingly symmetrical features kind of girl.
This allows girls to compare themselves to others on what they think they “should” look like. Just remember that photo shop exists and is used more often than you would think. Some people actually are that beautiful in your eyes but trust me, believe in your beauty.
I have body issues.
I am ok with saying that I do because im trying desperately to get over them and love myself. It’s really really hard. Its small steps and pushing myself into uncomfortable situations, some things I used to be uncomfortable have been overcome.
I’m proud of that but I can’t wait for the day when I feel like I can feel great about being completely bare. I know I’m never going to be a model but now I can say that I can feel beautiful and not feel bad for saying it. I would never have been able to even utter those words last year.
Being uncomfortable is my new favourite hobby.
Alexander Macqueen never had the issue of thinking “I need to dress this model”. All he cared about was the art he was creating. When I look at his work I see art. Not couture clothes. Art.
The shapes he creates would make you think the clothes would be unflattering but it’s so not about that. Every giant head piece and huge constructed bundle and every over-lipsticked lip are all beautifully “unflattering” in some type of way. I wouldn’t necessarily wear it walking the dog everyday but I sure would try his pieces and prance about feeling disgustingly gorgeous in it.
One of my favourite things about Macqueen is that he is not scared to take risks. I mean, why not? He wasn’t afraid to be strange and I think we could all embrace that. If you see something and you think its aesthetically pleasing then I urge you to put it on and feel great.
Let’s be strange and fashion forward future creepy people. It’s fun.
Thank you for reading my now comfortable blog.